Neil Clark Warren (born September 18, 1934) is an American clinical psychologist, Christian theologian, seminary professor and co-founder of the online relationship sites eHarmony and Compatible Partners.

In 1995, Warren and his son-in-law, Greg Forgatch, created Neil Clark Warren & Associates, a company which offers seminars and teaching tools based on Warren's books. In early 2000, they established eHarmony, an online compatibility matching service which gained two million users in its first three years. After retiring in 2007, Warren came out of retirement in July 2012, returning as the chief executive of eHarmony.

Early life and education

Born and raised near Des Moines, Iowa, Warren developed an interest in compatibility when young. Although his parents' marriage lasted seventy years, Warren was frustrated by their inability to communicate with each other: "They had a nice marriage, but they were not a very well-matched couple. ... My dad was just so stinking bright, and my mom was so sweet, but she was two standard deviations below him in intelligence," Warren said. When his father ran for office in Polk County, Warren's mother refused to vote because she didn't think one should meddle in politics.

Author and businessman

Warren has written about individuals finding the right marriage partner. He published his first pamphlet in 1975 entitled Selecting a Marriage Partner. By 2013, Warren had written ten books, including Learning to Live with the Love of Your Life, Love the Life you Live: 3 Secrets to Feeling Good—Deep Down in Your Soul, and Date or Soul Mate?: How to Know If Someone Is Worth Pursuing in Two Dates or Less. based on what are termed "29 dimensions of compatibility".

Warren was chairman of the board of directors at eHarmony from its beginning. In 2007, he entered retirement to live in Kennebunkport, Maine, with his wife Marylyn. Warren then returned to eHarmony as CEO in 2012. "I think we could have had a very good business forever matching people for marriage," Warren said in 2012 in an interview with the Los Angeles Times. "But our sense was, we could do a lot more than that."

Opinions

Warren's religious views strongly influence his work, though these views have at times come into conflict with his desire to expand his business. He has stated: "I think there is something very incredible about Jesus. I don't back away from that. At the same time ... the public we want to serve is the world."

Much of eHarmony's initial success was explained by Warren by its promotion on the daily radio broadcast of Focus on the Family. As the company expanded and sought broader market share, Warren parted ways with Focus on the Family and its founder, James Dobson. In 2005, Warren discontinued his appearances on Dobson's radio show and bought back rights to three of his books—Finding the Love of Your Life, Make Anger Your Ally, and Learning to Live with the Love of Your Life—originally published by Focus on the Family. As Warren explained, "We're trying to reach the whole world—people of all spiritual orientations, all political philosophies, all racial backgrounds."

Publications

  • God Said It, Don't Sweat It
  • Finding Contentment
  • Finding the Love of Your Life
  • Catching the Rhythm of Love
  • Make Anger Your Ally
  • Falling in Love for All the Right Reasons
  • How to Know if Someone is Worth Pursuing in Two Dates or Less
  • Love the Life you Live
  • “‘Date or Soulmate’” (ISBN 078528303X)

See also

  • Helen Fisher
  • Pepper Schwartz

References

  • Press release on Dr. Warren, eHarmony.com.
  • Interview with Warren on Fresh Air with Terry Gross, addressing the issue of providing services to those seeking same-sex matches. Audio file.
  • Q&A with Warren on National Review, with comments on eHarmony demographics.
  • Interview with Dr. Warren at iDate