thumb|Lesbian actress [[Katharine Cornell and gay director Guthrie McClintic entered into a lavender marriage in 1921, amid the era of "morality clauses" in the profession.]]
A lavender marriage is a male–female mixed-orientation marriage undertaken as a marriage of convenience to conceal the socially stigmatized sexual orientation of one or both partners. The term dates from the early 20th century and is used almost exclusively to characterize certain public celebrities' marriages in the first half of the 20th century, primarily before World War II, when public attitudes made it almost impossible for an openly queer person to pursue a public career, notably in the Hollywood film industry. The phrase appears in print at least as early as 1991, but lavender's association with homosexuality dates to the 1920s, described as the decade when "The lavender marriage seems to have come into its own in Hollywood".
In the Anglosphere
With the inclusion of morality clauses in Hollywood actors' contracts in the 1920s, some closeted stars entered into marriages of convenience to protect their reputations and preserve their careers. A noteworthy exception that demonstrates the precariousness of being openly queer was that of William Haines, whose career came to a sudden end at the age of 35. He refused to end his relationship with his partner, Jimmy Shields, and get married at the direction of his employer, Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer. Some companies withheld pay from employees found in breach of these clauses. Universal Film Company justified their actions by labeling the actors' behavior as unacceptable, including not only having sexual/romantic relationships with the same sex, but even the simple admission of being attracted to the same sex. With their livelihoods on the line, many queer actors felt they had no choice but to enter into lavender marriages. Lavender marriages also helped preserve the public's image of a celebrity (which, in turn, kept revenue flowing for studios), especially if they were famous for their looks or sex appeal. The end of the 20th century brought about a change for the LGBTQ+ community, particularly after the 1969 Stonewall riots. Because of this, lavender marriages between celebrities became less common.
- Actor Rock Hudson, troubled by rumors that Confidential magazine was planning to expose his homosexuality, married Phyllis Gates, a young woman employed by his agent, in 1955. Gates insisted until the time of her death that she had had no idea the marriage was anything other than legitimate.
- Actress-director Sondra Locke married gay sculptor Gordon Leigh Anderson in 1967, and remained married to him until she died in 2018. Locke only actively bearded for Anderson during the first few years of their marriage, and eventually said that they had never consummated it. Although the spouses were living together at the time of Locke's death,
- Swedish Hollywood actor Nils Asther and vaudeville entertainer Vivian Duncan had a brief marriage of convenience that resulted in one child; Asther was a well known homosexual who had a relationship with actor/stuntman Kenneth DuMain.
Although lavender marriages are typically associated with queer celebrities, people of all backgrounds have used them for protection and convenience. Some individuals have found solace on websites where they can express discontentment about their marriages of convenience, but not many have talked about their experience outside of the offline, apart from an article in The Guardian in November 2019, asking individuals to share their reasons for marrying for convenience. In November 2017, an article was published by the BBC about marriages of convenience in Asian LGBTQ+ communities in the UK.
The BBC article and its participants refer to a "marriage of convenience" rather than a lavender marriage, but they are still referring to a marriage that hides one partner's sexuality or that of both. Individuals reported that family expectations and keeping up an image were some of many reasons they had a marriage of convenience. Awemir Iqbal, a gay man from Pakistan, residing in West Yorkshire, stated that he understood why people had a marriage of convenience. The fear of tarnishing the family name or being disowned if their sexuality was discovered, led some to enter into one of these marriages. There exist groups, namely "Karma Nirvana", with the goal of supporting individuals (including queer people) who wish to escape forced marriages. Karma Nirvana's founder, Jasvinder Sanghera, says there are likely more marriages of convenience than are reported. Websites such as Mocmatch, Saathinight, and Al-Jannah are places where individuals can find partners to partake in a marriage of convenience.
See also
- Beard (companion)
- Boston marriage
- He never married
- Hollywood marriage
- Mariage blanc
- Sham marriage